You yourself can MAKE YOUR HAPPINES or LOSE IT

Unitedly give your hearts wholly, unreservedly to God. In your relationship life seek to elevate one another. Show the high and elevating principles of your holy faith in your everyday conversations and in the most private walks of life. Be ever careful and tender of the feelings of one another. Do not allow a playful, bantering, joking censuring of one another. These things are dangerous. They wound. The wound may be concealed, nevertheless the wound exists and peace is being sacrificed and happiness endangered.

Guard yourself and in no case manifest the least disposition savouring of a dictatorial, overbearing spirit. It will pay to watch your words before speaking. This is easier than to take them back or efface their impression afterwards. Ever speak kindly. Modulate even the tones of your voice. Let only love, gentleness, mildness be expressed in your countenance and in your voice. Make it a business to shed rays of sunlight, but never leave a cloud. The other person can be all to you and what you can desire if you are watchful and give no occasion to feel distressed and troubled and to doubt the genuineness of your love.


YOU YOURSELF CAN MAKE YOUR HAPPINESS OR LOOSE IT.

You can by seeking to conform your life to the Word of God be true, noble, elevated, and smooth the pathway of life for each other.

Yield to each other and yield your judgement sometimes. Do not be persistent, even if your course appears just right to yourself. You must be yielding, forbearing, kind, tenderhearted, pitiful, courteous, ever keeping fresh the little courtesies of life, the tender acts, the tender, cheerful, encouraging words. 

and may the best of heaven's blessings rest upon you both. 

Letters to Young Lovers